Why do I miss someone who treated me badly

If you keep asking why do I miss someone who treated me badly, it usually means longing may still be tied to attachment, familiarity, and intermittent closeness even though the relationship also caused significant hurt. Trauma bonding often feels less like one moment and more like a repeated inner position.

Toxic relationship attachment often feels emotionally contradictory because missing the person and recognizing the harm can both be true at once.